First Step

Healing is an ongoing process that never stops. WE often operate from a subconscious standpoint and are not aware of the traits we are presenting. When they say be careful what you listen to and watch, they really mean protect your subconscious. More of the events that happened to us stem from childhood. We weren’t able to defend ourselves, so we put into play other defense mechanisms to protect ourselves. Once we got older, those tendencies did not fade. They just presented themselves in relationships with us and other people. So now that you know this, you are responsible for growing out of survival mode. Why? These traits are affecting you negatively and can hinder your growth into becoming the best version of yourself.

Next Step

Growth could be hindered in finding a partner, marriage, jobs, and even raising your kids. Do you really want to pass down trauma hat your kids will need help recovering from? Of course not, because you have enough empathy to know they don’t deserve that in their life. Give them what you never had.  I don’t mean that materialistically, but internally.

Lastly

Is realizing that there is something that you need to address with yourself. Some pain that along the way altered who you were to fit what you were dealing with. That may be hard, because I had to go back and look at situations that seem small but really shifted my perception of people, safety, and trust. So I hen adapted to what was causing me pain in order to stop the hurting. Yet, that was not who I was made to be so I suppressed that person. Suppressed her for so long that I forgot who she was. Adele’s song, “Easy On Me” has this one line that I found really intriguing. She said, “I changed who I was to put you both first but now I give up.” Man that hits different when you really stop to see what she means. She was talking about about a marriage divorce but I could see it being as a trauma divorce. Leave those sabotaging behaviors alone and get to the best version of YOU!